Subba’s Serendipitous moments

August 3, 2009

Be yourself

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” — Chinese proverb.

I can’t think of a more simple, yet a deep truth. I was discussing my earlier blog post with 2 of my friends. Both believed that to be successful one should adapt, which means constantly changing oneself to circumstances. And if one has to change, one has to let go one’s true self. I will write my response to their observations in a separate post, but for now, I just want to do a follow up post which hopefully should clarify my stance.

I think most of us have a tendency to sell ourselves in situations even when we faintly perceive that we are being evaluated or judged. We worry too much about who we think we should be, instead of just being who we are. We over-value what we aren’t and undervalue what we are.

Regardless of where, when, or why of any situation, we should always be ourselves. I am specifically referring to a staying true to one’s principles and faith. The challenging part of this that there will be times when we need to challenge ourselves from a personality standpoint. We cannot just say, “Well, that’s the way, I am”. We all have such opportunities to challenge ourselves in matters of ability, growth, mental models and even beliefs. I say this with a smirk because I can tell from experience that it isn’t easy, though it may sound so.

People miss the amazing leverage that can come into play when they do buy into their vision for their own life and determining what’s preventing themselves from achieving it.

Death isn’t the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live.

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2 Comments »

  1. A quote from Friedrich Nietszche is apt: “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
    If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened.
    But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself”. Apparently, this price is too steep for many people :o)

    Comment by Foong — August 7, 2009 @ 10:50 am | Reply

  2. I fully agree with the thought presented by you – great learning for every individual.

    I think we individuals have landed in this situation because we seriously fail to understand that :

    “Not everything that counts can be counted and not everything that can be counted, counts” – Albert Einstein

    Comment by Pankaj Sawarbandhe — September 1, 2009 @ 6:00 pm | Reply


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